5 Life Changing Rituals (that I wish I followed)
You are so full of possibility. You don't induce anxiety the way Sunday does. Sunday is the buffer between a day that promises fulfillment and, well, Monday.
So, what's your idea of a perfect Saturday? Do you have a picture in your mind of the kind of home where everything feels clean, relaxed, and content?
When I think of how I'd like to spend a day that's deeply satisfying, I have to admit, I'm usually picturing someone else's life. That's because in my imagination, I'm partaking in at least one ritual that slows me down and allows me time to just be. My problem is that it's really hard for me to do "nothing." (I still haven't downloaded any of those really popular meditation apps. Have you?).
But maybe I'm looking at it the wrong way. Maybe it's not about doing nothing, but doing something, mindfully. Maybe if I started any of the following rituals, and really took the time to enjoy the peacefulness they can bring, I'd experience that inner contentment that we all crave from time to time.
So here they are:
5 Life Changing Rituals (That I Wished I followed)
And A Few That I Actually Do
1. CARING FOR WOODEN KITCHEN ITEMS
We recently interviewed Nicole Cole , creative home stylist and owner of Vestige Home, where you can purchase handmade, heirloom-worthy products. You simply rub some of their all-natural, petroleum-free Board Butter into any of your wood pieces to keep them from drying out and cracking. The feel of the natural wood and the "butter" soaking into your skin sounds heavenly.
2. REPOTTING PLANTS
We all know that plants grow out of their pots just like kids grow out of their shoes. Setting aside an hour to prep your kitchen counters, gather all of your plants and soil around you and gently moving them to their big-boy beds can remind you that you are capable of nurturing a living being. Very satisfying. Plus, it might give you an excuse to purchase a beautiful new pot, lovingly made by a favorite ceramist. And that feels good, too.
3. SPRING CLEANING
I love it when people talk about giving something a "deep" clean. It makes it sound SO... so... clean. And there's this thing called "spring cleaning" that some people seem to do. Their mothers did it. And so did their grandmothers. It's been around for awhile. But I've yet to intentionally set aside, say, a week and give myself a cleaning schedule, don some rubber gloves and carry a cute metal supply pail from room to room while wearing an equally cute apron. Just imagine how GOOD you'd feel knowing that you got behind every piece of furniture, scrubbed every tile, wiped down all of the mouldings and even possibly made the windows sparkle!!! (Maybe you're thinking I'm the laziest person you've ever heard of because of course you do this every year and what kind of filth am I living in anyway?). Maybe this is the year of the big Spring Clean in the Zuraw household. I'll let you know in April.
4. AFTERNOON TEA
I love the old English ritual of high tea in the afternoon. Not only do you have an excuse to drink tea and eat tiny sandwiches and scones with cream, you have someone serving it to you. But realistically, even simply making a pot of tea for yourself and sitting down for a few minutes to just stare out the window would make that 3pm slump feel a little less dreary. Especially if you're taking the time to really appreciate the room you're in. Wherever you are in your home, look around and just enjoy whatever you've put out. Photos of your family, artwork, favorite books or momentos from vacation. And even better if you're steeping the tea in a vintage tea pot and drinking from a delicate cup.
5. DAILY HOME GRACES
This one is so simple: Some people say Grace before every meal as a way to acknowledge their gratitude for the food that is sustaining them. How about something similar every time you come home? Make a little ritual of lighting incense or a candle after you've shrugged off the outside world and just take a moment to smell the scent, look around, and experience the feeling of gratitude for your home that shelters and protects you. And here's another opportunity for grace: Every night, mindfully put your house to bed. Leave the kitchen sink empty of the day's dishes, pick up stray detritus left by the little clutter gnomes you live with, and say thank you and goodnight to your home. And when you do so, say one thing that you love about your home, without also silently chastising yourself with the list of projects you haven't gotten to yet. Instead, end the day on a high note.
We would LOVE to hear about your rituals and let us know if any of ours resonate with you. If you try out anything new, we'd also love to hear about how it's changed your life, even in small ways!
P.S. Have you created your own, personal Style Manifesto yet? We've been hearing back from people who have used our worksheet and found it a great place to put into words how their style is manifesting itself in their homes. We think you'll get a lot out of it, too!